More Than A Mom, More Than A Writer

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Recently, a blogging friend chose to use a post of mine as the foundation of a task she was to complete as a book club exercise. I was honored. And surprised. Surprised by her warmth and acceptance of not only me but also me-the-writer.

Sometimes I forget I’m more than a mom.

With my friend’s insight, I learned a little bit more about me-the-writer. I was reminded I could write in my own candid, often humorous style and still provide thought provoking words at the same time. I don’t have to choose. I can just be me-the-writer.

When I write, my mind is full of words and phrases and meanings and, well, it’s a bit untamed in there when I’m in my zone. Call me crazy but I don’t have a process. When I’m able to get hold of a solid block of time, I simply open a blank page and let the words flow.

This is when I remember I’m more than a mom.

I was once asked if I had just one piece of advice to give other bloggers and writers, what that might be. I generally don’t give advice for any reason but I did put this out there because I believe it passionately: Be true to yourself. Allow the uniqueness of you to shine when you write.

It’s not easy to trust yourself enough to write as you are. But when you discover trust and belief in your writing, even if it’s fleeting, you discover a new source of absolute freedom.

I’m reminded again I’m more than a mom.

I’m at a point in my life where more often than not, I find writing is about being a mom. If you’ve read some of my other posts, you know I write about my kids a lot. It’s not because I don’t have tons of other writing material sailing about in my head. It’s because my children truly inspire me to write.

Proudly, I never forget I’m more than a writer.

For as long as I remember, two words have floated together in my thoughts as if stuck with glue. Writing. Legacy. Me-the-mom has it figured out. Me-the-writer has yet to organize the two to create one. But I’m confident it’s only a matter of time. Thanks to the encouragement of special people like my dear blogging friend, Jennifer.

  • Johnlyn

    Kelli – you said “well, it’s a bit untamed in there when I’m in my zone” …I hope you are never tame when you are in your zone!

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Aw thanks… me, too! LOL

  • http://frugalfoodallergies.com Lindsey

    What a sweet and absolutely true post! I thought Jennifer’s take on your post was great too. Sometimes it’s hard to look through lenses other than that of a food allergy mama. When I get to write, the words just flow. Like you, there’s rarely a plan, but there’s always plenty to say. What a timely and wonderful word you’ve shared today Kelli, I’m proud to call you friend :)

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Thank you, Lindsey. I love how we, as women-moms-writers, can appreciate other blogging niches and understand how fantastic it is that we are each unique. I’m happy to have found friends as wonderful as you!

  • http://jenniferdawnmclucas.com Jennifer Dawn McLucas

    Wow! I’m so glad you understood what I was saying. Everything you said here is so true for me too. I’ve still only sort of accepted myself as a writer- I can barely bring myself to say it out loud, lol. I love the way this post helps me see who I am, the mom me and the writer me. There are other facets to me too… As always, you’ve given me much to think about. ;)

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Acceptance and trust. That’s what we must give to ourselves, right? I practice self-reflection a lot so that I can keep finding those facets you mention. Most are flawed and I accept that. :) Thank you, Jennifer!

  • http://awkwardlaugh.com amy

    I love that you include legacy in your thoughts. For some people it looks like a journal, for others a photo album, for me it looks like blog posts. I’d better back them up so the site doesn’t crash before my kids are old enough to read them.

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Thanks, Amy. I know legacy isn’t a journal or photo album for me either. Maybe it’s a blog. Whatever it is, I know it will come to me. :)

      • Leah

        My favorite line is: “Be true to yourself. Allow the uniqueness of you to shine when you write.” Wise and so true words!

        • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

          Thank you, Leah. It’s a lesson I will always cherish!

  • http://www.hopenotesfromkrista.blogspot.com Krista English

    Wow, so so natural and wonderful a post you’ve written here. I just now had the chance to read it and I’m glad I took the time. You spoke right to my heart about being true to yourself. I have 2 blogs and have found that easier to do with the one that is more personal (my journey through leukemia and bone marrow transplant) then my education-blog encouraging others in their journey. In the personal blog, I am writing more to myself which sounds weird since it is a blog to encourage others who are suffering. I simply tell my story and often finish with a Scripture or some kind of admonition specifically to the reader. In my education blog, I find myself writing to the reader more than I do from my own story…it’s flipped. Your post has brought me to think of this for the first time! How interesting! Thanks for the though-provoking post!

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      I’m so glad you took the time to read this post, Krista. I love to write and I write whatever comes to mind and have learned to write from the heart. When I began blogging last year, I followed all the rules put out there by the boot camps, “gurus” and A-listers. After reviewing my About page, title and tagline one day, I realized I had no idea who I was reading about. It was the bio/blog of a stranger, not mine. That very day, I tossed out the rules and began the process of reworking every word on my site. In fact, I completed a total do-over. Lesson learned!

  • http://www.nakedmoxie.com Dr Lisa

    Beautifully said. And, thanks for the ability to remind me to relax and just go with it as a writer. It feels good to be inspired that not having it all planned out and allowing the inner Self to simply express itself when it needs to shine, is perfectly okay! We play many roles as women, but as I always say and you said here wonderfully, just stay true to one’s Self. (and the rest will flow) You do this amazingly!

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Thanks, Lisa! GMTA :)

  • http://www.northwestmommy.com Stasha

    You are a lovely writer and your family is beautiful. We are always a little bit more then just! Good reminder.

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Thank you, Stasha. You’re always too good to me!

  • http://www.housesbyshannon.blogspot.com Shannon Stubbs

    Happy Monday! Stopping by from Make My morning :) Great post! i often restart what I’m writing because I feel like it may not be good enough. I am a real estate agent, and tried hard to blog about it because they kept stressing at the office how helpful this was, but I could not do it. I would open up the page and nothing!

    Then I decided to start writing about my life, my daughter, this pregnancy, whatever strikes me. Now when I open the page it is more like slow down, only one thing at a time. It’s much easier when I’m sharing something that I am truly passionate about. I love my job, but it is just that, my job. Once I changed my blog, I got to be me, and I enjoy it so much more.

    Thanks for the great post!!

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      Thanks, Shannon! I can totally relate. I went through the exact same thing. Lesson learned. Stay true to yourself. :)

  • http://daintymom.com Martine | Work at Home Mom Writer

    I only read this today, Kelli. I love how you’ve placed such redemptive value on blogging. Bravo to you! I look up to writers like you. I’ve been writing all my life, and only recently began blogging (I’m two years into blogging. I don’t know if that has an equivalent, like dog years. Haha.) I love that, as a mom, I can write again. I’ve not written since I finished my journalism course, because it became “the job.” Thank you for reminding me that, as a writer, I’m more than “the job,” and that — more than blogging — writing is my vocation and calling.

    • http://sweetnessoflife.com Kelli

      So glad this post resonated with you. Keep writing!

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  • Jen

    I’m so glad I came upon this blog. It seems like lately I’ve been needing these kind of messages to remind me I’m doing the best thing for my children and family by being home and doing what I love most. I can only wish more moms like us realize this is best to be home for our kids and not get confused by the whole making a paycheck to have all the material things in life, and forgetting what life is really about.

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

      It’s easy to forget. We just have to keep reminding each other mom-to-mom. I’m really happy you found this blog, too! :)

  • Jen

    I’m so glad I came upon this blog. It seems like lately I’ve been needing these kind of messages to remind me I’m doing the best thing for my children and family by being home and doing what I love most. I can only wish more moms like us realize this is best to be home for our kids and not get confused by the whole making a paycheck to have all the material things in life, and forgetting what life is really about.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      It’s easy to forget. We just have to keep reminding each other mom-to-mom. I’m really happy you found this blog, too! :)

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