Life Happens And Then You Move Forward

Sweetness of Life & Motherhood ©

I know. My posts have been few and far between of late. When I began this post 14 days ago, it nearly broke me. I had to walk away. I dug my heels into my fiction reading addiction and kept my nose buried there, refusing to think or write.

I’ve been remiss. I failed to share my wonderful margarita-filled Mothers Day. I failed to share my daughter’s first ballet recital and my first experience as a dance mom backstage. Worse, I failed to share my son’s one and only high school graduation. But I will share these amazing moments soon and that’s a promise.

My daughter kicked me in the panties last night. Let me tell you, my 4 year-old sounded like a 40 year-old and she really let me have it. Immediately after, she curled up on top of me, said a sleepy goodnight and quickly drifted off to sleep. And I cried. Because she was right. I had let her down and that’s something she’d never before experienced with me. After I finished my cry, and ate not one but two chocolate bars, I was finally inspired to pick up my beloved MacBook Air and write.

Life happens. Sometimes it sneaks up on us and gives a little tap on the shoulder. Sometimes it surprises us because we allow ourselves to practice denial. And then sometimes it actually slaps us across the face.

Ouch. I had my face slapped by life back in April when I received a letter from my husband’s attorney informing me there would be a divorce. Then I allowed myself to be bullied for the following few months. But don’t worry, I’ve since bucked up and reinstated my 2012 new year’s resolution—be fearless.

Sweetness of Life & Motherhood is not just about motherhood. It’s about womanhood. And for me, that includes motherhood and much more. So as I begin to process my thoughts on the present and look forward to the future, I’ll be publishing some posts that may not include mention of my darling children.

I will no longer be bullied. I won’t let my kids down. I will remove the chocolate bars from my nightstand. And I will write.

I’m chronicling my ever-changing world as I find my way through the divorce process and beyond. I hope you’ll join me for the ride. You won’t find this series used as a platform for ex bashing, though I may share general observations. What you will find is a woman and mom looking forward to discovering a new life, hurdling the roller coaster of emotions and all things that come with starting over.

  • Kimberly Rues

    Kelli — Wise words from Winnie the Pooh: You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.

    xoxo (and if you need me, I’m here)

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      You’re amazing. Thank you!

  • Kimberly

    My heart goes out to you. Divorce sucks monkey butt. I look up to you as one of the women who completes my circle of support in the blogging world and I’m happy to return that support today. I’m with you – let’s be fearless together!!!

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      I’m blessed and grateful beyond words to have you and so many others like you in my world. :)

  • Heather McCurdy

    Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you are getting backup again… A friend once said to me, Us girls have to stick together, and it is so true! Also, I’m dying to know what your daughter said to you that was so smart!!! Please share :)

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

      She said several things–all in one breath it seemed–but what hit me hardest was when she told me I wasn’t behaving like the mommy she knows and loves. She’s an amazing little girl.

  • Heather McCurdy

    Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you are getting backup again… A friend once said to me, Us girls have to stick together, and it is so true! Also, I’m dying to know what your daughter said to you that was so smart!!! Please share :)

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      She said several things–all in one breath it seemed–but what hit me hardest was when she told me I wasn’t behaving like the mommy she knows and loves. She’s an amazing little girl.

  • http://www.facebook.com/sue.coletto Sue Coletto

    You’re a stronger person for writing about this. Your kids will be your motivation to keep moving forward. God bless.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      Thank you. I agree!

  • http://www.mombloggerbuzz.com/ Lisa Ladrido

    Divorce is tough and I am sorry to hear you have been dealing with this. Back in 1996 I was dealing with the same thing. Thankfully my church required me to complete a long questionnaire about my marriage and even included questions about our dating prior to getting married, 17 years before. After typing up over 17 pages I realized that the marriage wasn’t a healthy one and no longer needed to feel any guilt or feelings of failure. I made sure my ex husband and I always kept in contact regarding the children. The somewhat united front kept the kids balanced and limited any manipulation that they tried to pull over on us! They have now grown up to be great men and I am so proud. I know you will get through this and so will your sweet children. They will continue to feel your love and strength. We will be here for you Kelli. Love and support going your way. Lisa

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

      I’m a positive person and I accept the closed doors as I search for those that open. I feel like this is a great place to talk about this issue with hope others like yourself will be willing to share and in return, feel the awesome support at Sweetness of Life & Motherhood that comes from the readership. Thank you, Lisa! xo

  • http://mombloggerbuzz.com/ Lisa Ladrido

    Divorce is tough and I am sorry to hear you have been dealing with this. Back in 1996 I was dealing with the same thing. Thankfully my church required me to complete a long questionnaire about my marriage and even included questions about our dating prior to getting married, 17 years before. After typing up over 17 pages I realized that the marriage wasn’t a healthy one and no longer needed to feel any guilt or feelings of failure. I made sure my ex husband and I always kept in contact regarding the children. The somewhat united front kept the kids balanced and limited any manipulation that they tried to pull over on us! They have now grown up to be great men and I am so proud. I know you will get through this and so will your sweet children. They will continue to feel your love and strength. We will be here for you Kelli. Love and support going your way. Lisa

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      I’m a positive person and I accept the closed doors as I search for those that open. I feel like this is a great place to talk about this issue with hope others like yourself will be willing to share and in return, feel the awesome support at Sweetness of Life & Motherhood that comes from the readership. Thank you, Lisa! xo

  • http://twitter.com/Mompreneurmogul Lisa Cash Hanson

    Kelli you didn’t let your child down. There is no manual on life. Other then the Bible I suppose and I read it daily. But even with that there is no one who can tell you how to feel or how to act or what to do during a divorce- honestly it just sucks. No way around it. It awful for anyone involved.

    I’m sorry you were bullied that also stinks but I know that if you just keep your joy through it all no matter how challenging that will be a huge example to your kids. We are moms we are not perfect. And to me a good mom is an imperfect mom because only through those imperfections can our kids learn how to over come adversity.

    If we never have a challenge what is there to overcome ? I know you are doing an amazing job.

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

      Lisa, you are an inspiration always. Thank you for your sweet, sweet words. :)

    • http://twitter.com/Dainty_Mom Martine De Luna

      Kelli, you are a brave and wonderful woman. This blog is just a snippet of who you are, but you are so honest and courageously open about your life here that we get to see “you” in your entirety. You have a beautiful soul, and when you share about imperfections, not-so-sweet days, and the travails of womanhood, you encourage more women than you ever imagined! You are awesome. Thanks for being so generous with your life through this blog; may it keep on blessing others who come to it.

      • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

        I’m overwhelmed by the support I receive through this blog and I pray the readers of this blog feel the same strength. Thanks for always being here, Martine! xo

  • Lisa Cash Hanson

    Kelli you didn’t let your child down. There is no manual on life. Other then the Bible I suppose and I read it daily. But even with that there is no one who can tell you how to feel or how to act or what to do during a divorce- honestly it just sucks. No way around it. It awful for anyone involved.

    I’m sorry you were bullied that also stinks but I know that if you just keep your joy through it all no matter how challenging that will be a huge example to your kids. We are moms we are not perfect. And to me a good mom is an imperfect mom because only through those imperfections can our kids learn how to over come adversity.

    If we never have a challenge what is there to overcome ? I know you are doing an amazing job.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      Lisa, you are an inspiration always. Thank you for your sweet, sweet words. :)

  • Stephi

    Deep breath girlie , there will probably be more situations like these , God knows Ive had a few but next time you will be better abled to deal with it.Stop beating yourself up Hun , we are only human and we all make mistakes, its not a crime. Sending you a huge virtual hug, your not alone and you are one damn good mommy, ok!

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

      Your words mean a lot to me, Stephi. Thank you! xo

      • Mitzi

        Sweet Kelli, you are absolutely amazing! I had no clue all of this was going on in your life, but I feel you sweetie. Having been there more times than I like to admit; it is never fun to have your face slapped; but I am so looking forward to more (from your heart) fearless posts! Sometimes those are the absolute best! ~Big hugs to you my friend, xoxo

        • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli | @SweetLifeMommy

          Thank you, Mitzi. I appreciate your support more than words can say! :) xo

          • QueenMomJen

            Oh I am so sorry I did not know this was going on in your life. You are brave and thank you for sharing your experiences. We only know how strong we are until we have been tested. Keep on moving forward and the moving will get easier. Take care.

          • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli | @SweetLifeMommy

            Thank you, Jen. I’m blessed to have so much wonderful support surrounding me.

  • Stephi

    Deep breath girlie , there will probably be more situations like these , God knows Ive had a few but next time you will be better abled to deal with it.Stop beating yourself up Hun , we are only human and we all make mistakes, its not a crime. Sending you a huge virtual hug, your not alone and you are one damn good mommy, ok!

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      Your words mean a lot to me, Stephi. Thank you! xo

  • Dainty_Mom

    Kelli, you are a brave and wonderful woman. This blog is just a snippet of who you are, but you are so honest and courageously open about your life here that we get to see “you” in your entirety. You have a beautiful soul, and when you share about imperfections, not-so-sweet days, and the travails of womanhood, you encourage more women than you ever imagined! You are awesome. Thanks for being so generous with your life through this blog; may it keep on blessing others who come to it.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      I’m overwhelmed by the support I receive through this blog and I pray the readers of this blog feel the same strength. Thanks for always being here, Martine! xo

  • http://www.withinthemoments.com/ Mitzi

    Sweet Kelli, you are absolutely amazing! I had no clue all of this was going on in your life, but I feel you sweetie. Having been there more times than I like to admit; it is never fun to have your face slapped; but I am so looking forward to more (from your heart) fearless posts! Sometimes those are the absolute best! ~Big hugs to you my friend, xoxo

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      Thank you, Mitzi. I appreciate your support more than words can say! :) xo

  • www.icescreammama.com

    As my grandma used to say, to all my “why me’s.” -” Why not you.” Life happens. It happens to all of us. Sometimes it sucks. We rally. We read. We write. And we definitely don’t stop eating chocolate bars. :)

    • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli | @SweetLifeMommy

      You’re definitely a mama after my own heart! Love your blog’s tagline: Read it and Eat. Thank you for stopping by. You’ve made my day!

  • www.icescreammama.com

    As my grandma used to say, to all my “why me’s.” -” Why not you.” Life happens. It happens to all of us. Sometimes it sucks. We rally. We read. We write. And we definitely don’t stop eating chocolate bars. :)

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      You’re definitely a mama after my own heart! Love your blog’s tagline: Read it and Eat. Thank you for stopping by. You’ve made my day!

  • QueenMomJen

    Oh I am so sorry I did not know this was going on in your life. You are brave and thank you for sharing your experiences. We only know how strong we are until we have been tested. Keep on moving forward and the moving will get easier. Take care.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      Thank you, Jen. I’m blessed to have so much wonderful support surrounding me.

  • Anthony

    Dear kelli,
    It has obviously been quite a while since I have read the blog as well. I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. I wish there were some magical words of wisdom that I could write here that would help you to feel better about the situation but I know there is not. Time to redefine the boundaries that formerly ruled your life. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers Kelli.

    • http://kellihood.com/ Kelli Nelson

      “Time to redefine the boundaries that formerly ruled your life.”– love that, well said! Thank you, Anthony. I truly appreciate your support.

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  • http://twitter.com/RubberChickenMa RubberChickenMa

    Kelli — Wise words from Winnie the Pooh: You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.

    xoxo (and if you need me, I’m here)

  • Kimberly

    My heart goes out to you. Divorce sucks monkey butt. I look up to you as one of the women who completes my circle of support in the blogging world and I’m happy to return that support today. I’m with you – let’s be fearless together!!!

  • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

    You’re amazing. Thank you!

  • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

    I’m blessed and grateful beyond words to have you and so many others like you in my world. :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/sue.coletto Sue Coletto

    You’re a stronger person for writing about this. Your kids will be your motivation to keep moving forward. God bless.

  • http://SweetnessOfLife.com/ Kelli

    Thank you. I agree!