The Fur Mom: I’m Not a “Real” Mom, But I Love Like One

Sweetness of Life & Motherhood © Keep The Tail Wagging Guest author Kimberly Gauthier is a writer, photographer and fur mom of 3. She’s publisher and editor in chief for Keep The Tail Wagging, a popular online magazine celebrating dogs and connecting dog lovers. Read on to see why I absolutely adore Kim, her confidence and her sense of humor.                         

 Sweetness of Life & Motherhood © Kimberly GauthierWhenever I see a little girl in a matching raincoat, hat and boots, I melt and think “I want a little girl named Willow.” Whenever I see a little boy in a superman cape and rubber boots, I think “I want a little boy named Zander.” Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I don’t adore children.

As I write this I’m pleasantly surprised that I’m forty-one. I’m FORTY-ONE years old. I’ve spent the past decade waiting for my biological clock to chime in. Envisioning Marisa Tomei stomping on the floor (My Cousin Vinny). I got nothing and I have no regrets.

I love dogs

I’ve always loved dogs. My mom loves to share stories of relieving dog owners of their pet and lecturing them when they knocked on my door. “If you would treat your dog better, he wouldn’t run away!” Righteous indignation in a tiny, black girl wasn’t something most dog owners expected to experience.

Today, we have three Australian Cattle Dog Mix pups who make us laugh every day. Each one is a rescue with a sad beginning that we’ve managed to make them forget with love and security. These are my fur kids.

I’m a Fur Mommy Blogger

I get left out of opportunities, because I’m not a Mommy Blogger, but I’m fortunate enough to belong to a community of bloggers (many of them are Mommies) who welcome me with open arms and recognize my Fur Mommy status.

I’ve managed to carve out a niche for myself and have found new opportunities. I’ve even been invited to give a Dog Mom’s point of view many times, something that I didn’t expect and I’m thankful.

Being a Fur Mom

Although I don’t have kids at home, I do have a few things in common with my Mommy Blogger friends. Our dogs have a routine that I developed. We monitor their behavior, diet, and poo, because this is how we know if things are good or not so good. We have vet appointments, play dates, dog training, and I cook the week’s food every Sunday.

Our dogs have toy boxes, blankets, beds, dishes, snacks, supplements and ice cream. Our dogs expect to leave the store with a toy too. Some people say that they’re spoiled; I say that they’re loved.

I don’t have to teach morals, but I do have to teach proper behavior. I don’t have to save for college, but I do have to save for pet sitters, veterinarian care, and animal behaviorists.

I stay up with them when they’re sick, I comfort them when they’re afraid, I play with them before bed, and I snuggle with them in the morning.

They’re my babies, my best friends, my dogs, and my path. God created me to love dogs. He brings them into my life to keep me on my path. He broke my heart when He took Riley away and helped me mend it into a bigger and stronger muscle, ready to make a difference.

So nope, I’m not a “real” mom, but I think I love like one, I worry like one, I’ll go to battle like one, and I’m exhausted like one.

Now if you can just tell me – how in the world do Moms who have children AND pets do it all?

  • Brenda Lee

    Great post Kimberly! Those who dont understand Durante love, are truly missing out. We love our furbabies just as much or more than they love their human kids. I’m a proud pit bull momma and wouldn’t have it any other way.

    • Lee Kuchenreuther

      IF you decide to have kids, you’ll have had great training and patience already! AND those children will be blessed with having furry friends in their lives, teaching them to love, have empathy and patience as well!!!!! Good fortune I think!

  • http://www.mombloggerbuzz.com/ Lisa Ladrido

    So true Kimberly! I always considered you a mommy, it doesn’t matter that they aren’t human children! Our dogs are like our children too. We just lost one recently and it was so hard to let her go. Your babies are so lucky that they have you and of course you them. Fur moms are mommies too! Great post Kimberly! Lisa

    • http://twitter.com/TheFurMom Kimberly Gauthier

      Thanks so much, Lisa – It was fun to write.

  • http://mombloggerbuzz.com/ Lisa Ladrido

    So true Kimberly! I always considered you a mommy, it doesn’t matter that they aren’t human children! Our dogs are like our children too. We just lost one recently and it was so hard to let her go. Your babies are so lucky that they have you and of course you them. Fur moms are mommies too! Great post Kimberly! Lisa

    • http://www.keepthetailwagging.com/welcome Kimberly Morris Gauthier

      Thanks so much, Lisa – It was fun to write.

  • heather m

    great writing! I love that you are so passionate and happy! caring for another being take courage and love and makes you a mom too :)

    • basanborn

      You forgot a great positive for fur moms…they don’t get the empty nest syndrome! You can have your children next to you your entire life! Great post, Kimberly, I never looked at the similarities before and I totally agree…the love we have for our fur babies can be the same as the love for our human babies. And I say that because I started out as an only fur mom and have seen the best of both worlds. Oh I just thought of another positive…fur babies don’t talk back! ;)

  • heather m

    great writing! I love that you are so passionate and happy! caring for another being take courage and love and makes you a mom too :)

  • http://www.fourleggedmom.com/ Brenda Lee

    Great post Kimberly! Those who dont understand Durante love, are truly missing out. We love our furbabies just as much or more than they love their human kids. I’m a proud pit bull momma and wouldn’t have it any other way.

  • http://twitter.com/Mompreneurmogul Lisa Cash Hanson

    It’s not over yet LOL You still have lots of time to be a fur mom and a people mom ;) You’re young girl! Great post my friend has a boy named Xander great name too. When you have a baby it takes extra effort to keep walking the dogs LOL maybe you can show us how to do that better great post Kim!

  • Lisa Cash Hanson

    It’s not over yet LOL You still have lots of time to be a fur mom and a people mom ;) You’re young girl! Great post my friend has a boy named Xander great name too. When you have a baby it takes extra effort to keep walking the dogs LOL maybe you can show us how to do that better great post Kim!

  • basanborn

    You forgot a great positive for fur moms…they don’t get the empty nest syndrome! You can have your children next to you your entire life! Great post, Kimberly, I never looked at the similarities before and I totally agree…the love we have for our fur babies can be the same as the love for our human babies. And I say that because I started out as an only fur mom and have seen the best of both worlds. Oh I just thought of another positive…fur babies don’t talk back! ;)

  • http://www.facebook.com/lee.kuchenreuther Lee Kuchenreuther

    IF you decide to have kids, you’ll have had great training and patience already! AND those children will be blessed with having furry friends in their lives, teaching them to love, have empathy and patience as well!!!!! Good fortune I think!

  • AlyciaN

    Sweet Kimberly, I have agreed with all of this (being a human mom and fur mom) They both take the same kind of “stuff” and you were blessed with an abundance of the good “stuff” it takes to make a difference. Great post!

  • heather mccurdy

    Its hard to be a dog mom, you deal with lots of issues and whether kids or dogs, it takes a lot of love and energy, which you have plenty of!

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